When I first began to explore my own neurodivergence, I found myself surrounded by books that offered both clarity and confusion. Some were deeply validating, others made me question everything I thought I knew about ADHD and autism. Over time, I’ve curated a few that truly spoke to the experience of late-diagnosed adults, expats, and those who are navigating multiple layers of difference.
Here are some of the books that shaped my understanding and continue to inspire my work as an AuDHD coach in Europe.
This book combines science, storytelling, and compassion in a way that feels refreshing. It explores the ADHD brain not as a disorder, but as a different operating system. What I appreciate most is its focus on connection, structure, and strengths, rather than endless self-blame.
When I first read it, I recognized parts of my own experience — and those of my clients — in every chapter. The authors emphasize that ADHD brains thrive when supported with understanding, creativity, and compassion, which mirrors the foundation of my coaching approach.
Jessica McCabe, the creator behind the popular YouTube channel How to ADHD, brings together science, humor, and compassion in this essential guide.
This book is especially relatable for late-diagnosed adults who are learning to understand their ADHD traits not as failures, but as part of their unique brain wiring.
This book feels like a compassionate conversation with someone who gets it. It breaks down how executive function works (and why it often doesn’t), offers creative tools for managing daily life, and reminds readers that ADHD is not a moral failing—it’s a difference in how the brain processes motivation, emotion, and time.
Written from both personal and scientific perspectives, this book explores how women and marginalized genders with ADHD, autism, and other neurodivergences often go unseen.
Drawing from research, interviews, and her own experience, Nerenberg reveals how traits like sensitivity, intensity, or deep empathy—often labeled as weaknesses—are in fact forms of brilliance that simply don’t fit neurotypical expectations.
For expats and multilingual thinkers, this book resonates on another level: it acknowledges how difference can compound. Being “wired differently” while also adapting to new cultures, languages, and systems can lead to chronic exhaustion and masking. Nerenberg’s message invites readers to reclaim their sensitivity, creativity, and intuition as strengths—not flaws to be hidden.
You can learn more about my coaching for AuDHD adults and expats in Europe here.
